Well, the truth is, “judgement” is normal human behavior. But if you think about it, I mean really think about it, you’ll see it’s a huge waste of valuable time. Whether you’re judging other’s, or worried about other’s judging you, what does anyone truly gain from the time spent with these thoughts (or words), or actions? More often than not, it’s all negative energy. Luckily, at least once a year in this country we celebrate a holiday where most of us wish for “Peace on Earth, and Good Will Towards Man”. However, it seems that the rest of the time everyone is pointing fingers of blame and ridicule at each other. Everyone choosing a side to argue for, some just for the sake of arguing, and most completely oblivious to the real truth on either side of the argument. Someone always seems to know how somebody else should be living and/or being. Have you ever noticed how a certain person you know is always complaining about other people, about their lives and how they live it, about their looks or how they dress, about why they think someone is the way they are? Most of the time, it’s the person complaining, judging, and focusing all their attention off themselves (and their behavior), that is the one that needs to do some inner healing. Now, most people will hear the pompous complainer and judge them as well, but some of us don’t like to waste our energy having to reflect or deflect that negativity. Personally, if I’m not at a job getting paid to tolerate it, then I just walk away if I can. I have had my fair share of judgement in my life. I also remember a time when it hurt, really bad, still can sometimes in the moment if it shocks me. I hadn’t yet learned that other people’s behavior (including judgements), has nothing to do with me and is just a reflection of who they are and how they think. We are meant to be unique individuals in this life, diverse and loving beings full of gratitude and empathy, celebrating each other for who we are, always learning, growing, changing ourselves (hopefully for the better). There are people on this planet that I love with all my heart, and they don’t love me back the same way. I wish the best for them, and they just simply don’t care. We don’t speak anymore, and it’s ok. I can not, and will not, ever live my life on someone else’s terms or conditions, I don’t fit in a box. This is a short life we’ve all been gifted here. If we all tried to be conscious of ourselves when judgmental thoughts come into our minds, and instead choose to think from our hearts, and of something more useful for our own soul’s journey, just imagine how much more peaceful life could actually be. When you think of me, please do it with your heart instead of your mind, I promise to do the same for you, always. Love trumps judgement, and it feels so much better!
